So I posted that video the one which goes:
“ohhhh is your daughter simply so shy?”
“no, she is definitely simply actually considerate about when she decides to talk”
… and I perceive individuals who made the argument that being shy isn’t dangerous (I agree, it isn’t all the time) however it’s OFTEN utilized in a unfavorable approach (ask actually any introvert and they’re going to have so many examples of occasions they’ve felt dangerous when being known as shy…*I do know not all of them however you get what I’m saying..) I simply assume it’s so pointless to position these labels on children earlier than they’ve even absolutely developed.. I imply so many children will naturally develop out of it and a few will work with their dad and mom to grasp it higher however both approach it simply looks like one thing we needs to be extra considerate about how we are saying that and after we say it.
Individuals who act shy typically are very considerate and observant people who’ve a variety of compassion. It’s really such a cool trait and I believe there are a variety of perks from being quiet. I’ve discovered so many perks to being quiet and compassionate within the work place too.
I used to lack confidence as a result of I knew I used to be quiet and likewise felt like I wasn’t good sufficient to be speaking to sure individuals. I all the time felt a bit foolish speaking to a CEO who graduated from Harvard .. having by no means graduated faculty myself. I had beforehand been given the recommendation “simply act assured and fake to know no matter they’re speaking about and yow will discover out after!” I discovered that to be horrible recommendation for myself .. I might get WAY too deep in conversations I do know nothing about after which seem like an fool. I began saying “oh I’m not acquainted with that time period are you able to please clarify?” or just “I don’t know what you imply by that” and I discovered that the individuals I used to be speaking to additionally didn’t know issues that I KNEW. As soon as I mentioned I don’t know additionally they felt comfy saying it. I felt insecure not figuring out their fancy enterprise phrases however I knew extra about influencers, advertising, hair, and constructing a group. These are the issues I thrive doing as a result of I LOVE doing them. I’m good at them and never everyone seems to be so I began to really feel assured figuring out it’s okay to say “I don’t know” as a result of we aren’t all meant to know every part. I additionally assume extra of somebody once they don’t fake to be a know all of it – as a result of that’s…annoying. Be fast to ask for clarification and allow them to see how a lot you like to hear and study. I used to be just lately speaking to this unimaginable girl who has been a CEO of a number of huge manufacturers.. I bought so excited speaking to her and studying from her I bought so within the zone asking questions. She stopped and instructed me how a lot she liked that I liked to study and never fake to know every part. To her it was refreshing. It felt good to listen to that and I believe simply being YOU shall be refreshing to individuals. And if anybody makes you are feeling dumb for not figuring out then truthfully don’t do enterprise with them anyway. I’ve zero time for doing enterprise with egotistical individuals who assume they’re higher than others as a result of they’ve X title or X revenue or X degree of training… and if saying I don’t know is a fast and simple approach to see somebody’s true colours than extra the explanation to say it.
It’s a journey to get to the purpose of really figuring out your self, studying your physique’s queues, and figuring out your patterns… so don’t really feel defeated if that feels daunting. I’m all the time going to be engaged on it and don’t assume anybody is each really there in all points of life. All of us will all the time have our strengths and weaknesses and that’s okay. Love you guys!!!!!!!!! xoxoxo